Yes! It’s exhilarating to be newly engaged, your getting married! But now it’s time to do the wedding-planning.

Some of the things that you will need to do before you say “I DO” will test your patience. Do not let wedding details break your brain.

Music is something I can help you with, because, I do music. 🙂

It’s easy to lay out music needs for your wedding day itinerary. It’s best to start with a list of activities for the event. A majority of events follow a standard wedding format. You will need music for guest seating, the ceremony, cocktail hour, a grand entrance, dinner, basic wedding activities “first dance, anniversary dance, father-daughter, mother-son, money dance, cake cutting, after-cake transition, general dancing and your big exit at the end of the night. A typical 6 hour wedding event, start to finish will need an average of 90 songs.

Easy right?

A great way to plan music, is to build your music needs around your wedding guests.

The guests you invite to your wedding will be a big part of the energy of the day. Music that involves your guests will help everyone have more fun. It’s important to note your guests may like music that is very different from your taste in music.

Let’s get started.

Wedding Party: The first guests to focus on are in your wedding party. Ask your wedding party to list one or two favorite dance songs and slow songs. Your event will have slow dancing and fast dancing. Your wedding party is close to you and may know your style of music. Getting each guest in your crew, to give you song suggestion’s is a great starting point. In a short time you will have a small pool of music choose from.

Next up…

Family: Ask close family the same questions. Something fast and slow. Plus add two more questions. 1st: If your family members are married, what song did they used for there first dance. 2nd: Do they have any traditional songs they would like played. The goal is to collect music ideas for your wedding. Close family will feel honored to share something personal with you. Lastly your family will have more fun being involved at the event.

But wait, your not done yet:

Guests: Ask all the guests to give you a fast song, a slow song and a dedication song for the bride and groom. A dedication song will normally express devotion or nostalgia and will be more heartfelt. A majority of guest will put some think time into the song they choose.

Getting ideas from everyone will open up a the variety of music. Your guests may suggest songs you have never listened to before. So, go and explore the songs they tell you about.

Nothing is set in stone. You are just getting a feel for what your guest like.

If your wedding has a theme. Let your guests know. You may be surprised by the feedback.

Music moves the soul. Weddings are just a formal party. With the right music on hand, the event will be awesome.

Let’s get down to brass tacks. The music you collect from guests and that you may want to use will go into a master play list. The top songs you like for each task during the event will be in it’s own activity list.

Everything is pre-programed, >>> but it’s not.

I will take requests from guests as long as they are clean. Weddings have a wide age group of guests. Not every guest will like explicit content. You are in control of content. If you want songs that have dirty or suggestive lyrics. I will play them. Dirty pg13 or nc17 tracks should be played later in the dancing portion of the event. No one will like explicit content during dinner.

Bride and Groom table

The wedding is for the bride and groom. Guests are invited to celebrate the special day. Keeping your guests engaged and active is critical to fun memories. My job is to help you plan a fun event. It’s also my job to keep everything moving smoothly. Weddings have a time line to keep. A wedding DJ wears many hats. the most important hat is the party hat.

Weddings are a party with purpose…

Wedding event music at Maximum Loudness!!!

Music that’s too loud, will be uncomfortable to listen to. Your guests comfort is priority one. Weddings have many guests from young to old. Everyone will have a different opinion of what is too loud.

VU Meter showing channel peaking
Display of the professional video recorder with alarm Over signal. Too loud sound level

Lot’s of event locations have restrictions on how loud you can be. “Maximum Loudness”

All event halls will have a maximum sound level. Many contracts will outline how loud your DJ can be (or) at what time in the evening you have to reduce the sound level. Indoor events are more forgiving to loudness than an outdoor event.

Once the party is pumping, it is a total bummer to be told to turn down the music.

SPL “Sound pressure level” can be uncomfortable when it’s too high. Weddings and regular events do not need to be “rock concert loud.” The sound level at a rock concert can range from 100db to 115db. Near a speaker stack it could be 125db.

I like to run an SPL db meter app on my tablet during the event so that I can monitor loudness in real time during the event. The meter app is also great for sound quality. I can see a frequency spectrum of the sound being played and I can adjust EQ levels to shape the sound to fit better in the event space. Not all event spaces are the same. The size of the room can impact how sound bounces against the walls, floor and ceiling. Outdoor events are more challenging because you do not have the reflection of sound from walls.

Let’s take a look at some basic sound levels at a typical wedding.

Guest arriving to the event: This level will be very soft, just loud enough to be noticed. The sound system is primed and ready to go. Anyway people are mingling, hugging and talking. They do not need music yet. Sound level is at 10% or less

Ceremony: This is a task-driven loudness. The seating music will be soft so guests can talk with each other. This is a gathering time. Loudness will increase for the bride and groom entrance and exit. Sound level is at 15-20%

Cocktails: Music will be loud enough that people can here the rhythm and feel the bass. This is a social time and everyone is talking, sharing war stories and catching up. The music may get the guests to tap their feet to the beat or move around to the beat. No dancing yet. Sound levels are around 35%

Wedding party entrance: This is a task-driven loudness. Songs for the wedding party entrance will range in loudness. Sound levels are around 45%

Bride and Groom entrance: This is going to be louder than the bridal party entrance. Fanfare for the newly weds is a big thing, so it will be louder. Sound levels can reach as high as 75%

Dinner: Dinner time is going to be around the same levels as the cocktail hour. Maybe just slightly lower, depending on how guests are reacting at the tables. I am always monitoring the room. Sound levels are around 30 -35%

Reading the room is part of the event flow.

Wedding dance tasks and Cake cutting: This is going to be right around 60% of maximum sound levels. You will feel the music, but can still be social during the activities.

Open dancing, it’s time to party: Ok, it’s time to turn up. I start at 75% of maximum loudness and build up over time. The reason for this, is to build up the overall sound level over 4 to 6 songs. Think about this part of the event like a boat throttle. If I go wide open throttle right at the start, I will knock guests off of the boat. I do not want guests to start leaving before we get started.

A slow rise in levels will keep the guests happy.

If you have ever worn head phones you will know about being desesitized to loudness. After 20 minuets of listing most people will turn the volume up, more if the song is a banger.

Take off the head phones and return back 10 minuits later and you will notice the music is way too loud in your head phones.

Music loudness can cause guests to have a bad time at your event. No one wants guest to be unhappy. I want all guests to go home with great memories of an awesome wedding day.

Loudness

Novelty music at weddings, say it’s not so.

What is a novelty song? It can be a one hit wonder by a big name artist. It can be a song that is from a movie soundtrack. It can be a catchy song that is always used at sports events. It can even be from a “life moment” from an event that is personal to you.

Dog listing to music
Funny dog is listening to music from vintage gramophone

Over the years, I have seen silly songs, fad songs and party highlighters.

Now, back in the 80s a very popular song was Footloose. It was played at almost every event for years and years. In the 90s, the big ear worm was the Macarena. In the 2000s the Cha Cha Slide was the stand out track. All you have to do is search the web for what’s the top wedding tracks in any year of your choosing.

At a wedding you may hear any combination of novelties depending on the general age group of the event. You never know what guests will request.

Oh yeah, I take requests.

Every event planning session I do with a client, we will touch base on the topic of novelty songs. Every client has different needs. The age of the guests is a factor. If the event has a theme and the music is part of the theme. Plus it’s very important to talk about songs that should not be played.

“No play” songs could be because the client hates a song or it may be because its not appropriate for the guests.

Any way you look at music planning for your event, you need to be open to music variety.

In the last 10 years I have seen 6 songs that guests always seem to ask for. Now, your tastes may vary, but remember a wedding event is an all ages party. So the list is not in the order of favorites, but the one that seems to be the top novelty track, is the last song in the list.

: The Cha Cha Slide

: Shout

: The Cupid Shuffle

: The Electric Slide

: The Chicken Dance

: The Y.M.C.A.

Boots on the ground.

After years of scout outings, my favorite hiking boots failed. The sole came apart out on the trail. Out on the trail I needed to repair my boot. Para cord, duct tape and an ace bandage did the trick. I made it back to base camp. A scout is prepared…

A wedding event can test you, just like my boots tested me on the trail. Being ready for things to go wrong is one part of working a wedding event. You need to plan. You need to know the trail. All events have challenges and you only have one shot to get it right.

A first aid kit for wedding events is necessary, but we always hope we do not have to use it. Having a first aid kit may save the day. Turning a problem into getting back on task and the event can keep moving forward.

All events need good planning. With good planning, you can be ready for unexpected changes. I always have my first aid kit close by, just in case.